Winning Your Child - The Series
I wrote this series while in Guatemala adopting our seventh child. It was a comfort to me during this stressful time to have had experience with adoption. I share my experiences in the hope that it might help others.
I. Winning Your Child
II. Winning your Child through Slinging
III. Winning Your Child with Bottle Feeding
IV. The Newborn Is Different
V. Winning Your Child - Hugging and Holding
(Here's another post which elaborates upon the first:
http://mariancastle.blogspot.com/2007/08/adoption-and-dont-let-anyone-hold-her.html
A few adoptive moms left interesting comments.)
VI. Pain Free Environment
VII. Play Games With Your Baby
VIII. Games and Therapy
IX. Winning Your Child Through Prayer and Consecration
X. A Few Odds and Ends
For more adoption posts including a few on Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) please click on the label at the end of this post:
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3 comments:
This series was a real help to me, Helen. Thank you.
How I wish our Radish - a son adopted when he was almost 5 yrs - was a swift and simple tale of attachment.
We weren't prepared for attachment disorder and by the time we recognized it - well we couldn't turn him away.
He is still dishonest, nicer to everyone than us, less destructive, but still easily irritated. He takes meds for ADHD and aggression. They help a lot - but alas no pill for honesty.
We are dangling his First Holy Communion like a carrot - honesty will let him come to the Lord's Table - dishonesty, well no siree.
Glad your little ones found a good mom.
RAD has given me an idea of how difficult it is to be a parent, how difficult it is to make the right decisions concerning one’s children, and how each child and family need to respond in the way that is best for them. As I offer the following thoughts, I just want to assure readers that I appreciate the difficulty you are experiencing with RAD. I do not underestimate the difficulty and I applaud your continued efforts with your children.
Mamamull, I also understand your concern about teaching your child to speak the truth. Honesty is such a challenging aspect to RAD. We probably didn’t experience the depth of the problem that you are experiencing. So, my words probably don’t apply to your situation.
Around First Holy Communion time, I was hearing the word medication often. I’m not opposed to medication, I just wanted to take my time before going down that road. We decided that we would go to the Divine Physician first by bringing the child to the Lord with frequent reception of the sacraments (weekly confession and Holy Communion as often as possible – usually once a week) accompanied by parental prayer for healing. I gave this plan a year.
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